Without Waiting

Wanting, allowing, and moving forward

Think of something you want that also depends on someone else’s decision. You can make room for the uncertainty and still choose one step that is yours to take.

Sometimes what we’re waiting for is an apology. Or an answer. Or for someone to understand why something mattered to us. It makes sense to want those things.

But while we wait, other things can get put on hold, too. Maybe we’ve been waiting for an apology before deciding how much room to give that relationship. We can still want the apology and make that decision with what we know today.

Some things really do require another person’s decision. What else have I been waiting to do alongside it? What part of that can I begin now?

What have I put on hold while I wait for something only they can give?

Keep Exploring

What happens when you’re ready for a family relationship to change and the other person still relates to you the old way? Parentstasis follows that question as children become adults.

See how this journal can accompany reflection on estrangement in Resources for the Journey, a section of When the Estrangement Is Real.

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